Dealing with Losing A Player: Who Failed Who?

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Reflecting on the challenges of coaching, a player's departure prompted deep reflection. Disagreement with national coaching advice led to the player leaving, raising questions about rigid assessments and the impact of traditional methods. Embracing a player-centered approach, the coach seeks broader acceptance of diverse coaching philosophies for holistic player development.

Reflecting on the Loss of a Player: The Challenges of Coaching Philosophies

Recently, I experienced a challenging yet insightful episode in my coaching career, which culminated in a player moving to another coach. For those of you following my podcast or video blog, you’re aware that my coaching methods have been under scrutiny. From players questioning whom to listen to, to parents doubting the effectiveness of my game-based approach, it’s been a period of deep reflection and discussion.

The Catalyst for Change

The player in question was highly talented, participating in national governing body regional training and competing at a Grade 1 level in the orange category. Their aspirations included being selected for regional training this upcoming September. However, after a regional camp, I received feedback from the parents who were advised by a national coach to alter the player’s serve and backhand techniques.

Despite the player’s serve and backhand stats aligning with national averages—with minimal errors in match play—I questioned the need for these changes. “Why fix what isn’t broken?” I pondered. The response was based on a technical competency score from the camp, which I felt wasn’t sufficient data to warrant a fundamental change in technique.

Differing Views and Decision

After discussing my perspective with the parents—who initially agreed with my approach—the situation took a turn following another regional camp. The player was not selected for the long list due to perceived technical deficiencies. Consequently, the parents opted to change coaches, seeking someone who would focus explicitly on refining the serve and backhand as advised.

Critical Questions Raised

This situation raises several pertinent questions about the nature of coaching and player development:

  • Why assess technical competency so rigidly? If a player’s techniques are effective and efficient, why should unconventional methods be a basis for exclusion?
  • Is snapshot assessment at camps sufficient? Can occasional observations at camps provide a comprehensive view of a player’s abilities and potential?
  • What about the risks of major technical changes? Could these changes potentially harm the player physically or psychologically, especially if they’re tailored to a rigid model that might not suit the player’s individual attributes?

The Role of National Coaches and Traditional Methods

The influence of national coaches is significant, given their positions of authority and the weight their opinions carry. However, this episode underscores the potential pitfalls of a one-size-fits-all, technique-focused coaching philosophy that may not always align with a player’s best interests.

Moving Forward: A Hopeful Outlook

While I sincerely hope that the player thrives under new guidance, this experience has reinforced my commitment to a player-centered approach—one that values individuality, adapts to each player’s unique needs, and focuses on long-term development rather than short-term technical conformity.

Conclusion: Embracing Diverse Coaching Philosophies

This incident highlights the need for broader acceptance of diverse coaching philosophies within the tennis community. It challenges us to think critically about how we define success and progress for young athletes. As I continue to advocate for a more holistic, inclusive approach to coaching, I invite other coaches, parents, and players to join the conversation and consider how we might collectively foster an environment that truly supports all aspects of player development.

For those interested in learning more about a player-centered coaching approach or seeking a community that values comprehensive player development, consider joining My Tennis Coach Academy. Together, we can work towards a more inclusive and effective model of coaching.

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        About the Author

        Written by Steve Whelan

        Steve Whelan is a tennis coach, coach educator, and researcher with 24+ years of on-court experience working across grassroots, performance, and coach development environments. His work focuses on how players actually learn, specialising in practice design, skill transfer, and ecological dynamics in tennis.

        Steve has presented at national and international coaching conferences, contributed to coach education programmes, and published work exploring intention, attention, affordances, and representative learning design in tennis. His writing bridges academic research and real-world coaching, helping coaches move beyond drills toward practices that hold up under match pressure.

        He is the founder of My Tennis Coaching and My Tennis Coach Academy, a global learning community for coaches seeking modern, evidence-informed approaches to player development.

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